Google “how to design your home when moving in with someone” and you’ll get a ton of results explaining how to compromise with your BF on that horrendous chair he wants to keep. But what about design for the recently dumped? After a breakup, a bedroom that was once a romantic refuge suddenly feels more like a battleground. You glance around your space and realize you’re sitting in a tomb of items that symbolize your fallen relationship.
We’ve all been there. But just like chopping your hair off or working out, reclaiming what was once yours is a special form of catharsis. So instead of hiding in your cave surrounded by items from the “good ol’ days,” move forward by redoing your bedroom with these break up busting design tips.
BEFORE: All about compromise (snore)
AFTER: All about me!
Refocus Your Energy: The best breakup-busting strategy is to focus your energy on constructive things rather than what went wrong. Whether you’ve been meaning to paint your bedroom walls, complete a DIY project, or finally clean out the skeletons in your closet, now is definitely the time.
Rid Your Room of Reminders: You can’t make a fresh start without first freshening up the spaces that you spend the most time in. “You’ll always remember the good times, but you have to clear your head by removing old mementos and replacing them with items that make you happy no matter what’s happening around you,” designer Kimberly Winthrop says. That means the framed photos and sweet gifts from your ex get stored away (or destroyed) and replaced with art, photos of beloved friends and fam, and pieces that remind you of all the things in your life that bring you love and joy.
Buy New Bedding: “Invest in some high-quality linens that you love. Not only will they smell fresh and clean, but you’ll want something soft to cuddle you while you cry yourself to sleep,” says Laurel & Wolf interior designer James Tabb. Because the next best thing to a boyfriend is a body pillow.
Reclaim Your Style: One of the upsides to finding yourself newly single is not having to answer to anyone other than yourself, starting with the look and feel of your room. “Design using your favorite colors and indulge in soft textures and fabrics,” says Kimberly. Take advantage of the ability to make your room all about you. No compromises.
Give Your Bedroom a Fresh Coat of Paint: You don’t have to spend a lot to make a big change (save that for your wine and ice cream budget). A fresh coat of paint makes a big impact on a small budget. James recommends choosing a light and uplifting color, or one you’ve always gravitated towards.
Make “Me” Space: Now that you have some quality alone time on your hands, spend it doing the stuff that you’ve put off or always wanted to try. “Mark your territory by making a “me space” where you can read, journal, or plot your revenge,” says James.
Designed by Kimberly Winthrop and James Tabb.